Today is hard on us. Yesterday, at 5pm, I watched as my mother and father bid me goodbye.
Here are my thoughts...
Sunday night at approximately 8:30pm, my parents were notified that a device would have to be put into the left side of my brain because the doctors believed I had had another stroke. My mother signed the paperwork, and afterwards discussed options with the doctors.
This is what they said...
"Christopher has suffered a traumatic stroke on the right side of his brain. We went in and removed the dead areas in the right hemisphere. We cannot do that to the left. Christopher's pressures in his left hemisphere positively state that he has had another stroke on the left side, and putting in the device to allow us to drain fluid could kill instantly, because of all the bleeding. If we do the surgery, and it is successful, he will never come out of the vegitative state that he is in now. He will not be able to breathe on his own, feed himself, will not know who you are, can never say I love you again and will require 24 hours full nursing support. How would you like for us to proceed? Discuss it amoungst yourselves and we will put the device in in the morning."
On Monday morning, this is what my mother said...
"My son, for 8 years and 51 weeks, ran, jumped, played basketball, laughed and loved everyone that he met. He is kind hearted, with lots of enthusiasm for life. He loved Clemson football especially player CJ Spiller, loved Michael Jordan, loved to watch movies with me and he cannot do that any longer in the state that he is in right now. Therefore, because the child laying in that bed looks like my Charlie, he will never be that person again in the state that he is in now...and I will not be selfish enough to keep him here to suffer. I have to let him go."
So mom called all the family, told them her plans (she and dad agreed to the plan) and they made the hardest decision of their lives. They let me go. At 4:51pm on Monday, December 7, 2009, my parents with my family and friends, watched the nurses removed my life support, held my hand, and told me that they loved me more than life itself. And I love them too.
So now I must say goodbye and tell everyone that was near and dear to me that I will always love you, and that I am watching over you. I SEE ALL!!!
May God bless you and hold you near his heart as he has done me.
With all my love.
Christopher Charles Gordon
"CHARLIE"
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I am so sorry for your loss. I will continue to pray for your family. My daughter Kaitlyn was in Chirs's class.She wants you to know she is thinking of you all. He was such a sweet little boy with a beautiful smile.God bless you and be with you.
ReplyDeleteI did not know your son or your family, but Sandy Smith sent out a prayer request. I started praying for your family right away.
ReplyDeleteI pray God's loving arms around you and your family in this time of need. Keep the LORD close to you always.
Brenda Tessener
I am so sorry for the loss of your precious son. I just want you to know that I have been praying for you all through all of this as well as all of your friends at Sykes. If nothing else has come from working there at least we met some wonderful people and made some lasting friends. Just wanted you to know that I love you and will continue to pray for you and your family and if there is anything I can do for you just let me know. If you just need someone to listen or a shoulder to lean on. Again I love you and am thankful that God let us meet. Sharon, God is going to get you through the next few days, weeks, and months. Lean on Him and He will see you through....
ReplyDeleteKathy Butler
I am sorry I have not had the privilege to meet your family. I am deeply sadden to hear of your loss. I know of the deepest hurt for my family had to go through it with Johnny. My daughter has written two poems for Johnny and I would like to share them with you.
ReplyDeleteletter from our angel
for those i love,those now hurt,
please forgive me,im sorry i had to go
but god called me up to watch ova those who lovd me so
please dont cry for me, for im always near
find comfort n knowing when god sends for u, im right here
my calling was so sudden, i know i caused alot of pain
but time helps bring the sun through the endless rain
please try and understand that things happen for reasons unknown
dont worry for me,im n peace,yet for u some concern i own
u'll find strength and comfort,just remember cherished time we had
please remember what god gives u, make it the best
and think well of life, and with peace i'll rest.
our angel
dear sweet child,did u really have to go
a gift from god, how many people loved u so
your smile and laugh alone, whitened da blackest of black
u were truely an angel,i guess thats y god called u back
my dear sweet child, ur life was filled with promise and hope
so please tell me ur pain that hurts too bad t cope
u wanted to bfree, yet not ready to let u go u needed to stay
cuz how can i truely say goodbye now that god already took u away
and although i'll hurt forever,n my heart u'll stay and neva leave
because u taught me to treasure our moments that which we recieve.
With Love
Martha Lambert
Chesapeake, VA